The Impact Of Judgment
Have you ever attended a family gathering where you felt like people were talking about you or has something somebody said about you stuck with you for longer than you expected?
All of us have received some form of judgment, be it from family, friends, acquaintances or somebody we just met. Too much judgment can be unhealthy and can make you overly critical of yourself. You may catch yourself feeling too conscious about the way you look or you may beat yourself up over little things other people pointed out about you, for example the way you talk.
If you feel like you have been judged too harshly or you can’t stop thinking about a specific judgment, remember to be compassionate to yourself and others. Loving and accepting yourself can reduce your stress levels.
Try to be aware of your criticism and ask yourself why you feel the way you do, and if it is really rooted in reality. Another person’s opinions do not define you and it is more about them than it is you. If possible, always try to avoid overly-judgmental people because it can cause you to start passing judgments about others and yourself.
Passing judgment on others mostly comes from a place of insecurity and low self-esteem. Judgment allows a person to be in a position of control which they can use to defend themselves from everyone else.
If you feel like you have been overcritical of others, remember that it only increases self criticism which can cause you to doubt yourself and become increasingly anxious. It also affects your relationships and people may distance themselves from you, and you can end up feeling lonely. Lastly, by constantly pointing your finger at others, you may become blind to your own faults, and you won’t be able to work on yourself and improve your own lifestyle. Be confident in others and especially yourself!